2 posts tagged “dating”

Ok boys and girls, it's that time of year again. Six months have gone by since my last date. That seems to be just enough time to forget how bad match.com is and to contemplate once again giving them my credit card number. I know there are sites out there other than match, but since I don't actually believe any one of them is actually better than another, I'm going to stick with what I know.

Here's where you, my reading public, come in to play:
If you were setting me up on a blind date, what would you tell the guy about me?

Let's face it, there are some things that show up in just about every profile. Everyone is trying to find someone who is honest, funny, enjoys spending time with family and friends, likes to travel, eats the occasional meal, blah blah blah. I just can't bring myself to write that stuff anymore. Why be a scoop of vanilla when you could be Mackinac Island fudge*? What should I write? More specifically, what do you see as some of my finer, or more unique, qualities? As an example, one guy I dated for a while liked the fact that when I get tipsy I tend to giggle.

Should you know of anyone who is available, or have a method of meeting people with a success rate higher than that of online dating, please share! I'm trying to remain open minded, but I do have some preferences. First of all, rednecks need not apply (despite the fact that being in VA this does drastically reduce the size of the pool). Keep in mind that I am 5'8" and enjoy wearing heels. His political views must be liberal (friends don't let friends vote Republican). Religiously speaking, I grew up attending a very liberal Protestant church with a Jewish mother and a father who goes just for the music. Bible beaters and I probably won't mix well (again, reducing the VA pool). I also remain pretty strict about the college graduation requirement.

So that about covers it for now. I am going into this with the mindset that I will be in VA for a while. I honestly don't know if I will be, but I can't keep living life with only one foot in the door.

THANKS!!!

*Vanilla with chocolate syrup, chunks of fudge, and maybe some nuts (I can't quite remember). In a word: yummy!!

P.S. If there are any guys out there reading this who are also contemplating putting a profile online, I have just one piece of advice. Do not put a photo up of you and another woman. I don't care how good you look standing next to your [ex-, sister, mother, or high school Spanish teacher]. It doesn't sell!

Every now and then I spend some time Googling friends I haven't seen/heard from in a while. This afternoon the target of my search was someone who can best be described as an ex-boyfriend. Surprise! I found his wedding pictures. Despite all my issues with people getting married, I found myself feeling nothing less than happy for him. He is practically glowing in the photos. I never, ever, saw him smile like that. When mutual friends of ours got married about 6 years ago, "Boy" was one of the groomsmen. Due to his countenance in a photo of the entire wedding party, he was nicknamed "The Undertaker". If his bride can make him smile like that, she must truly be the one for him.

"Boy" and I were never meant to be. It was quite clear to me, but he was so desperate to be in a relationship that he ignored the fact I was just using him for free meals and movie tickets (he always insisted on paying for everything, which worked for me). "Boy" preferred the chain restaurants, and was always noticeably uncomfortable when I chose something more upscale. There were very few topics we could discuss, and we pretty much had the same conversation every time we went out. He likes the military and voted for Bush in 2004 (under my influence he voted for Gore in '00, but later, as the chads hung, became disappointed with his decision). A few years ago he was contemplating joining the NRA so he could participate in some sort of rifle competition. As I said, we were not meant to be.

There were times in the past two years that I wondered if he were silly enough to be waiting around for me to move back to CT so we could be together. I am incredibly relieved to know that he wasn't. I'm a little disappointed that he didn't tell me about the wedding, he just ignored my emails for the past year. But judging by the photos - their reception was in a place I would never step foot - "Boy" found someone who is a great fit for him, and that is all you ever want for your friends, right?